Forgive and forget. That was the title of the daily prompt today. They had a similar subject back in 2011 and I wrote THIS then, I re-read my own post now and nothing much has changed.

If I’ve been wronged, the other part ask me for forgiveness and I feel that it is heartfelt … sure! I’ve made my own mistakes where I would want forgiveness too.

In other cases, where it’s unclear if the other part even want forgiveness — perhaps he or she did it out of pure meanness — I won’t allow this to take charge of my life and turn me into a bitter, revengeful person. I willย  think ยซOkay, so I’ve been wronged! Happens all the time … all over the place and I’m not going to allow for all that anger to define my life, I’m worth better than that!ยป

Forgetting, is a whole different story. We can’t forget, and should we?! However, there’s no reason [for me] to constantly rehash the past, letting old memories hurt and open old wounds, when all I want is peace.

31 Replies to “repentence”

  1. I feel the same way. I have had one or two just keep doing things. When that happens I quit communicating at all. Otherwise, I am on to other things.

    1. Me too, about quit communicating. I’ve had a great, recent example, where I almost got caught up, but yesterday’s prompt got me back on the right track again ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. I totally agree with what you are saying! I can forgive! But as long as I can think ( clearly I should say lol ) I will never forget…

    But even if I don’t forget, it is not like I sit here and think about it day in and day out! ๐Ÿ™‚

    On a total different subject! I love the snow that is falling down your page! It says that it can be done on my page too but I have not yet seen any snow there LOL

    Have a lovely Sunday!! Kram!

  3. Its a difficult one, but like you I can forgive if asked and its heartfelt. If not its mere manipulation which will not do anything good. Then its about yourself to get off that hook- because as I see it its my own responsibility how to handle it. Its damnd difficult if has been hurting very much-to be honest, I am not always good to that. But it is better now than years back.

  4. What’s the expression? “Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.”
    To be forgiving? No problem, that shows maturity, but to simply forget about the situation would be asking for it to happen again…

  5. I am a great forgiver. I do not forget tho’…I mean the serious stuff…I give people 3 chances…if they use them up I bless them & set them free….I even had to do this with one of my Brothers. It is just easier than carrying the hurt & upset around. I wish Sparky well & hope he has a good life…
    Sometimes letting go is just easier!!
    Sherri-Ellen xo

    1. I so totally agree with you. It’s just that sometimes I seem to have a problem with actualy doing that for real … sometimes the angry feelings rear their ugly heads anyway… Getting better all the time though..

  6. It takes practice…I too can take the hurt & resentment back if I so choose. I find that carrying all that around weighs me down emotionally and spiritually. Like when my ex Sister-In-Law posted on her FB wall that someone was sending her nude pix of themselves & she added a link asking people to go to the wall of this person & tell them to stop or risk the Police being called….so I clicked on the link and it went BACK TO MY WALL!!! I did not even bother to email her. I checked when she posted it & it had been up for 4 days & she was on daily so she knew it was there & there were alot of comments…..I unfriended & blocked her & reported her & changed my privacy level & password & even my last name. Having been able to do something pro-active I feel alot better. I forgive her for being so nasty but I will not interact with her ever again ๐Ÿ˜‰

  7. My ex Sis -In-Law has some issues to begin with. i do not blame the Internet. she made a choice to discredit me & possibly do some bad damage to my reputation all because I asked her about my Brother… now I let them both go… shows me that people can be good or they can be bad…she felt it al right to *fight my Brother’s battle* instead of letting him & I sort out our differences. Now nothing will be resolved. No big deal as I feel estranged from most of my family anyway….
    I think the Internet just gives people a grander platform to showcase their fooness or vileness…

    1. That’s what I meant, but you expressed it so much better [last sentence]. I’m thankful nobody in whatever little family I have, has taken it to FB ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. That was meant to read goodness….lol..I guess you knew what I meant..this typing in the dark is pretty funny!! People can be so grandiose can’t they??
    Since I changed emails I have had 2 people complain to me…there is nothing I can do about what they are griping about & you know I got really irritated…so I had to read what I shared with you….let it go…lol…. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    1. LOL
      But what was that about the two people complaining? About what, changing email?! For goodness sake?!?! What business of theirs is that?! I hope you will be happy and pleased with your new email provider! ๐Ÿ™‚ They live in Germany, I believe.

  9. Rebby I had 2 people say my emails to them went into their SPAM folder….so I emailed back they should mark as NOT SPAM & things will be be fine…then I got told GMX spams alot….I have not had a problem in the past….sometimes I think people ‘look’ for stuff to whine about. A few people are also complaining I am no longer on Yahoo Messenger yet they never I’M’ed me in years….again too much time to complain….I have chat on FB so if anyone wants to chat they can send me email there. I am trying to simplify things….TRYING…hahaha!!
    Yes GMX is out of Germany…as I am 1/2 German I figured I would try them again & so far no problems. I am happy. I got all 52 contacts into Contact list there…BTW I did not change my email name….& I shortened the ‘Yahoo’ to “GMX” so you’d think people would be happy….lol. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    1. Yeah, that happens often the first time … So what, big deal LOL Especially if one sends from Yahoo or Outlook/MSN to Gmail or the other way around. Once you’ve said ‘not spam’ it won’t happen again..

      I don’t know if any email provider is any better than the other, with regards to spam. I’ve had Gmail accounts that have been spammed so badly, and then again, other accounts with hardly any.

  10. You are right Rebby….my local friend found my email in her SPAM so she hit the NOT SPAM button & I am sure things will be smooth from this point on. That is why I sent out a mass email to all 52 contacts saying I was moving to GMX so they could add the new addy in their emails…
    I do not like G Mail at all…it ‘ate’ 50 condolences when Mingy died & I could not recover them so had to set up whole new email….that was when I went from Hotmail to Yahoo.
    Since 2000 this is only my 3rd email move…not bad really…. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    1. Third in thirteen years?! Wow ๐Ÿ˜‰ that’s not bad!
      Did they just disappear, those 50 emails?
      I have some kind of love/hate relationship with Google. Sometimes I try to leave, but I get sucked back in LOL. I’ve had Gmail since almost the day it was released. I’d been waiting eagerly, because I wanted to sign up as Webby, but it turned out the user-ID had to be six characters. I still have my first account, but it’s that one that gets spammed so badly, so I keep it mainly for sentimental reasons ๐Ÿ˜€

  11. I think 3 in 13 years is pretty good. yes those emails vanished into thin air….I even had a tech guy try to locate them but they were gone.
    I have 2 accounts…the GMX & another one just for FB posts to go into. I do not like having anything left open that I am not using….no sentimentality here, lol….I AM senitmental about blogging friends tho’….like the family I wish I had!!! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    1. I still use that one a little bit … my brother still writes to it, most of the time. But apart from that — that last month and a half, I’ve made a point of going through and closing everything that I don’t use.

  12. ๐Ÿ˜‰ You did have so many email accounts I honestly got very confused, lol.
    I find I need 2: one for regular email & WP posts & the other for FB posts. That way I can keep track of everything w/out having a breakdown, lol.
    No more complaints from anyone so I think the ‘kvetching’ is done, lol.

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